How to Better Understand Your Stress Levels [Illustrated]

Could you be near your breaking point, unaware that you are functioning from a state of stress overload? As illustrated, cups and glasses have different capacities. Similarly, our internal capacity to handle life challenges and demands vary from person to person; it is unique to each. Some people may appear tough, yet have a lesser capacity; while others may seem delicate even though possessing a greater capacity. This internal capacity is our buffer in life. It basically indicates how much stress, challenge, or ‘crap’ we can really take in without feeling overwhelmed. Therefore, it is vital to be mindful of our own capacity and acknowledge that critical line passing which indicates that we have truly reached our limit. This is when it is necessary to take some ...

How Not Setting Boundaries in Relationships Causes Pain [Parable]

Do you often wonder how you could better protect yourself from going through so much pain in your relationships? Is it possible that a great deal of your pain and drama could be resolved by setting healthier and more effective boundaries? Let me share with you, my version of the story of the snake and the wandering monk. The snake in our story lived near a village and would bite, without any good reason, every passer-by who tried to cross the forest. The locals advised avoiding the snake’s territory. A wandering monk, new to the village, decided to ignore the locals’ warning. He thought to himself: “I’m not afraid of snakes. I know some tricks.”  The monk continued his journey. As he got closer to the forest, the snake moved swiftly towards him, ready to ...

How Choosing to Let Go Can Reduce Stress [Parable]

Do you need to let go of something or someone to gain back some inner peace? Let me share with you the interesting trick the Indians discovered to catch a monkey. Monkeys are seen all around India. They are curious, playful, and to some extent energetic troublemakers. Trying to catch a swift monkey is no easy task. So after many trials and errors, the Indians came up with an interesting trick to outsmart the monkeys. First and foremost, to catch a monkey, we need to catch its attention. So we need something of value to the monkey and what better than a B-a-n-a-n-a ?! The trick is quite simple: a bottle with a neck narrow enough for the monkey's hand to pass through, plus a banana. Then they anchor the bottle to the ground ...