How to Stop Self-sabotage by Understanding Your 3 Brains [Illustrated]

Are you frustrated with not again going through with your new year's resolutions? Do you often get stressed and wonder what is sabotaging your own decisions? 3 brains in 1 head!  "No way! Are you serious?" I know, right? No wonder it's so noisy up there! In the course of human evolution, our brain got additional layers of complexity. This highly organized operational system is composed of three main multi-layered compartments with unique programs running in our head: Reptilian brain ―> Reacting Mammalian brain ―> Feeling Cognitive brain ―> Thinking Imagine three highly opinionated general, each one with a unique agenda and a different definition of happiness. And the lack of integration between these brains results in much confusion and noise in our head. I'm sure we can all recall personal experiences where we were indecisive ...

How Choosing to Let Go Can Reduce Stress [Parable]

Do you need to let go of something or someone to gain back some inner peace? Let me share with you the interesting trick the Indians discovered to catch a monkey. Monkeys are seen all around India. They are curious, playful, and to some extent energetic troublemakers. Trying to catch a swift monkey is no easy task. So after many trials and errors, the Indians came up with an interesting trick to outsmart the monkeys. First and foremost, to catch a monkey, we need to catch its attention. So we need something of value to the monkey and what better than a B-a-n-a-n-a ?! The trick is quite simple: a bottle with a neck narrow enough for the monkey's hand to pass through, plus a banana. Then they anchor the bottle to the ground ...

The Power of Belief and How It Can Cause Stress [Illustrated]

Are you subject to suffering from stress by holding onto certain beliefs? Are you aware of the consequences of what you believe in? Remember when you were reading a well narrated fictional story, or watching an amazing movie? You believed in the story so much so that you were completely lost in it. You became the characters; their misery and joy became yours. You shed tears with their sorrow and celebrated their joy. It felt real, even though you knew that it was just a made up story. Similarly, our mind makes up stories about what happens to us; it does so to help us process what we perceive in life and to bring some order to the chaos of information. And, sure enough, we believe it ...

How Believing The Storytelling Mind Causes Stress [Parable]

How much of the story you tell about yourself is bare facts? What percentage is your added interpretations and stories? Let me share with you, my version of, the famous Taoist story of the wise farmer and his black horse. Our farmer lived in a small village together with his son. He was known and envied by the villagers, not for his wisdom, but for a treasure he owned – a majestic, beautiful, black horse. Even the king wanted to ride this horse and went on offering gifts and tempting prices. The farmer was quite poor, yet firm in his refusals: “This horse is more than a horse to me; my precious friend. Who sells such a rare companion?!” One morning, the farmer found the stable empty and the beautiful horse long gone. The villagers came by; each one shared their thoughts and opinions: “Look at you, ...

How Your Mental Coloring Causes Stress and Anxiety [Illustrated]

Do you think that those (tragic) events of the past fully define and determine how you feel today? Do you often lose hope thinking that your current emotional and mental state is an inevitable result of your past? If so, then I have some great news for you. Life events are kinda... over-rated! You may feel some resistance to continue reading. I promise that this is an inspiring post. ;-) Our society, education, family and health system are so preoccupied with removing stressful situations, sometimes at the cost of intoxicating us with heavy doses of medication and limiting our natural expressions, while at all this time, overlooking the essential source that causes stress and much misery  - our mind. External life events and our internal capacity do not ...